Living with a controlling or dominating partner can be extremely frustrating. Especially when you are in love with that person and chances of moving out on him or her is out of the question. A spouse who loves to control your life is either insecure about losing you or simply love bossing you around. This behaviour can often turn abusive and troublesome as time flows.
How to cope with this kind of behaviour
Do not ignore this behaviour: Once you start ignoring this behaviour of your partner, they feel that you are okay with them controlling your life and will start tormenting you all the more.
Be clear and assertive
Make sure you let your partner know that you do not appreciate his/her behaviour. Most controlling partners respond to those who stand up to them and fight back. You should deal with them head on and never leave things unresolved. Says Minnu Bhonsle, relationship expert, “Be clear and assertive while you are communicating to your partner. Let him/her know that it is okay for them to express concern but not go overboard with it.”
Stop giving in to everything
To stop your partner from controlling you, you have to stop giving in to everything he/she wants you to do. Make sure that you tell them that you can take some decisions in your life on your own. Once you let your partner enter every aspect of your life, he/she will automatically start controlling you.
Work on your relationship mutually
If you feel that your partner is understanding, it is better to work on this relationship before it starts falling apart. You both can discuss the issue and come up with ways to better your bond.
Seek help from family, friends or an expert
If you are wary of how your partner might react if you tell him or her directly that you do not like their dominating and over-possessive ways, ask your family or friends to talk to them about the same. If you feel that you should not disclose your partner’s behaviour in front of your family and friends, seek professional help.
6 signs your partner is a control freak
He/she makes the rules and controls everything what you do, where you go, who spends the money and what it should be spent on.
You are emotionally blackmailed and made to feel intimidated. This drains you emotionally and mentally.
Your partner tells you that you are incompetent, helpless and alone without him/her.
Your partner argues endlessly and makes you do exactly what he/she wants.
More often than not, your opinion is of no importance to him/her.
You sense a stark possessiveness.