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New mommy Soha Ali Khan talks about her new phase of motherhood

Posted on 07 March 2018 by admin

Soha Ali Khan became a mother on September 29, 2017 and her world has changed ever since. Her daughter Inaaya Naumi Kemmu is the apple of her eye. Soha’s cheeks pink up as she talks about holding her bundle of joy. “When you undergo scans, you’re aware someone is inside you. You see the baby taking form. But nothing prepares you for the joy you experience when you first hold your newborn in your arms. You’ve created a life and all this has happened without any laboratory or engineering. It’s just Kunal (Kemmu) and me and then this person comes out with 10 fingers, 10 toes… a perfect human being!” She mentions she’s no longer in control of her life, which now revolves around Inaaya. “She controls when I eat, what I eat, my sleep, my TV viewing – she’s the boss,” laughs Soha.

It’s normal for mothers to undergo postpartum blues and Soha is no exception. Hormonal changes can assault a woman’s body post pregnancy and she understands it’s just a phase. “A new mother goes through ups and downs, you get blues, you get depressed, you feel bad as everyone is going out to party and you’ve got to be at home. You can’t do certain things. I tried to remain balanced about it. But I’ve had breakdowns in the early weeks,” she confides.

Thankfully, her husband Kunal is a hands-on father and has been her pillar of strength throughout. It took her some time to bond with Inaaya but Kunal took to his daughter as soon as he saw her. “Kunal’s extremely supportive. He stays up nights with me. If I feed her, he burps her. He plays with her, lulls her to sleep,” she says about sharing parental responsibilities. She talks fondly of Inaaya’s bond with her dad. “She looks at him nowadays and smiles. There’s something special between a daughter and a father. I’ve been experienced that with my own father. It’s something you can’t explain.”

Soha mentions that she’s trying to grasp what Inaaya’s different crying sounds mean. “The sounds for every situation are different. The vary depending on whether she’s hungry, sleepy, bored or has just wet herself. Earlier I used to be confused. But now, I’m getting the hang of it,” she smiles. She reveals that her bond with husband Kunal has deepened ever since they turned parents. “Inaaya has half of him and half of me. I often wonder who I love more – Kunal or Inaaya! Who’s number one in my life? And it’s impossible to answer,” she shares.

Soha’s lucky that sister-in-law Kareena Kapoor Khan, whose son Taimur turned a year recently, is a new mother herself and is at hand to advise. “If I’ve any question, any doubts, whether it’s about consulting a paediatrician, hiring nurses… anything, Kareena is just a call away,” she says. Soha has grown emotionally close to Kareena, thanks to both being young mothers. “Kareena’s given me so many tips that I can write another book,” she says. Mom Sharmila Tagore is there to help as well and so is sister Saba Ali Khan. “Mom says it’s been 38 years since she had a baby. So things have changed. She advises me to look after myself as being a new parent takes its toll. And it’s true because I haven’t enjoyed uninterrupted sleep ever since Inaaya was born,” she shares. Soha says Saba is a hands-on aunt and often comes over to babysit Inaaya. “Saba’s two years older to me. She’s always been protective. The first time I changed Inaaya’s diapers, it was a mess,” she giggles adding, “Saba helped me!” The baby pictures of Taimur and Inaaya recently created a stir on the internet.

“They look a bit like each other. They are cousins after all. He’s her elder brother. Hope he will protect her in the near future,” she says.

It’s commendable that amidst the various joys and pains of being a first-time mother, Soha found time to write a book. Titled The Perils of Being Moderately Famous, it’s an anecdotal book containing stories about growing up in a household where everyone was more famous than her. Her father, Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi was one of the most dashing Indian cricketers, mother Sharmila Tagore was a top marquee star, brother Saif Ali Khan is a top star currently and so is sister-in-law Kareena Kapoor Khan. She says the book explains what it’s like to be related to such illustrious people. “They are part of my identity. It also talks about being famous and being an actor in India where Bollywood is such a big industry. One can easily believe the world that revolves around you and there’s nothing else out there. People often go through their lives imagining that,” she reveals. Saif and she share the same kind of dry English humour and Soha informs that he liked those parts where she’s described the various journeys taken together as a family.

Nepotism is something most people hailing from famous families are often accused of and Soha believes while it does open doors, the struggle begins there. “There are benefits that come from belonging to a famous family. You get a certain amount of access to directors, producers, actors…,”she says. “You may get an appointment with someone. People will answer your phone, they will reply to your message, they will be polite with you, they will entertain you because you are so and so’s daughter or sister. But that doesn’t mean that you will get the job. Talent and hard work count more. You have to prove yourself in the field,” she cautions.

She admits that thanks to her family, she escaped the clutches of the casting couch. “Here, people do talk about things like sexual harassment. But I’m fortunate because everyone has treated me with love and respect. I know people will not mess with me.” She’s a romantic at heart and the mayhem and madness of moviemaking is what attracted her to the business in the first place. “They say if you can find a job you love, you don’t have to work a day in your life. So, if you can turn what you love into your career, then you can have a happy life.” And it’s this passion that has compelled her into turning a producer. She’s excited that both Kunal and she are taking this plunge together. Their first film as producers is based on the life of legal dignitary Ram Jethmalani. “Ram Jethmalani has represented so many people, criminals, politicians. He’s been involved in the most high-profile cases – from Manu Sharma (convicted in the Jessica Lall murder case) to the Indira Gandhi assassination. His current passion is to bring black money back to India. It’s a story that needed to be told. Hence, we launched our production company to do that,” she gushes.

Acting-wise, she’ll soon start shooting for Tigmanshu Dhulia’s Saheb Biwi Aur Gangster3. She’s going to be part of another thriller as well. Soha maintains she’s fortunate that she doesn’t have to work for a living and can indulge in her passion. “I’m lucky to have financial security. I do work that I want to do. It needn’t be a big-budget film and opposite a big hero. It should be a role that I enjoy doing. Otherwise, I can sit at home or go off on a holiday and do things that I find interesting,” she says not before adding, “But I’m ambitious. There’s still a lot to achieve.”

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